Sometimes it’s really hard to break free from negative thoughts, sometimes they comes from others but more often than you think, they come from ourselves. With the rise of social media and insta-famous people, it’s important not to judge, not to compare and remember that a 24hr Instagram lifestyle just doesn’t exist. I have put together my 3 tips to not only get over that negativity but to also use it as motivation. Let me tell you what I mean!
Don’t let people tell you you can’t do something
Firstly don’t let anyone tell you want to do with your life. Obviously respect the law, your boss, your teacher etc. But what I mean here is don’t let those negative people bring you down. I have often been told ‘you can’t do that’, ‘you won’t be able to make it’, ‘you won’t get those grades’, but the point is – you can! If you put your mind to it you can do anything so take those neggy vibes and turn them into something positive and build a life for yourself that you enjoy.
Often it’s about really thinking about who you are and what makes you happy. One day, I just grabbed a piece of paper and wrote down everything that made me happy, excited or inspired. Getting it all out of your head can really give you some clarity and focus when deciding the right path to take whether that be a career, relationships or lifestyle. Find what you love and you can’t go far wrong.
Turn it around
This might be a little bit childish on my part but my favourite thing to do when someone says something really mean or tells me something I have said is a bad idea is be overly nice to them. More often than not, negative people just want to get a reaction from you to make you feel like a weak person, don’t let them see you react. Instead, just be really nice, smile, and get on with your day – you don’t need that shiz in your life! Just think to yourself, they are just incredibly insecure and don’t have a fulfilled life if they feel the need to bring others down – poor them!
Make a Plan
Even if it’s for the year, the month or even just for tomorrow, write a list of the things you want to achieve in that time and make it realistic. By making small actions and changes on a regular basis you will become one step closer to where you want to be.
I have always been interested in beauty and fashion, even from an early age I remember swapping makeup with my friends and begging my mum to give her a makeover. That passion has never left me but have always been told it’s not a real job or I should look for something more serious and respectable. The long and short of it is, do what you want from the beginning and if you work hard and build on relationships with the right people then you will get to where you want to be. It’s much more difficult to change careers in your late twenties, mainly because you tend to have more commitments, but it can be done. With one step at a time, it will work. If you set yourself just one goal a week whether that may be to write your first blog post, sign up to an online training course, save £10 towards your first camera it all counts toward your goal. If you are patient and consistent, good things will come!
I am definitely in a strange phase in my life right now and I’m looking forward to the future and following my own ambitions. Do you have any advice for dealing with negativity and turning it around into a positive?